Words of Wisdom

Top 10 signs you should ditch a guy:

10. He never apologizes when he is an ass to you.
9. He is an ass to you.
8. He tells you he has a lot of money...he doesn't...he's just trying to impress you...or compensate for something.
7. He throws a phone at you.
6. He lies to you a lot!
5. He lies to you.
4. He only hangs out with you when you will buy him something.
3. He tells you that you should join a gym...hell he says he will even pay for it.
2. You have a strange suspicion he is seeing other girl(s).
...and the number one sign you should ditch a guy...
1. Everyone tells you that you are too good for him...they are right...the best part is that you have known it all along!

Seriously ladies...you know what you deserve, so don't settle for anything less! Ya it might suck to be alone but trust me it would be worse to be with someone who doesn't deserve you. You would be miserable. I thought I would be married by 22 at the latest, but I am so glad I'm not! I look at the people that I have dated, and especially the ones I thought I could spend the rest of my life with, and I know that I could not have been happy with them. Being alone has really allowed me to explore the things that I really want and need. I have come to discover that being alone is a good time for me to travel, work, have adventures, learn all sorts of new things, and truly become educated. There is no way I knew myself at 22...I still don't know myself and I'm 27 now! I am excited to get married, but I am more excited to have life experiences first. I believe that through my experiences I am being molded into the person I will truly love and be happy with. I cannot be happy with someone and love someone until I truly love myself. In turn, I cannot be loved the way I deserve until I love and respect myself. That is true happiness...I can wait for that!!!

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Words of Wisdom

So, I have decided to add two new series to my blog. One is titled "The Things You Don't Know About Me Could Fill A Book." The other is "Words of Wisdsom." They are designed to show a bit more of who I am and to let others learn from my experiences. They are meant to be satirical...a big part of my sense of humor. Yet they do still deliver a message about who I am and all that I know. Enjoy!!!

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Why Blog?

This is my very first blog. Why am I doing this? I could just write in a journal all the things that I want to say. But, I guess I just feel like this way I am bouncing my ideas off others. That always helps me to make sense of things. So, here I am, talking to a silent audience. I hope that in some small way the struggles I have with my identity can help others who might also be struggling, because I know there are a lot of us. I have found a way to feel peace and security with just being myself.

Now you may be wondering why I chose to name my blog "Shades of Nature." Then again, you might not. I am going to tell you either way though. I came up with the title through a favorite quote of mine by Emily Bronte; "I'll walk where my own nature would be leading, it vexes me to choose another guide." I particularly like this quote because I have gone through the motions for years; I have been doing things for the sake of doing them without knowing why, other than that it was expected of me. Lately I have come to realize more of my own nature, and in turn I have been able to let it lead me. Also, I have come to realize that life is not black and white, but it has all sorts of shades. I am happy to say that I love the many wonderful and glorious shades of my nature.

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